~ From a Morning Person

I love sunsets but perhaps I am a sunrise person, For maybe the peace it has, For maybe the the way it gives birth to another day, For maybe its a start of new journey, For maybe it doesn't let us go back, For maybe its hues that color the soul, For maybe it can make us wanderers without feeling lost, For maybe it still holds the night's moon, For maybe it says sail away and discover yourself, For maybe it is a start of something new, For maybe it carries the beauty know one ever knew.


P.S: Written at dawn, on the rooftop with forever beautiful Karachi's wind.

Trouble Parents, Troubled Children

The six year old ran out of her parent’s room and hid behind the refrigerator so she could save herself from the view of her parents fighting. The scene was very disturbing; I could feel a heavy thud inside me. I walked to her, she looked at me with lost look, I bent down, smiled and held her hand and said: “Come on sweet heart, let’s go out and enjoy the party.”

Children who grow up watching their fight have an effect on their brain development. Medical reports also claim that even when a child is asleep it can absorb the negativity of people arguing and fighting. These effects are usually long lasting and can alter the way how the child looks up to matters in life.

Fighting parents end up giving an impression of fragile relationship and the child’s sense of security can be damaged. The child my doubt his parent’s abilities whether they’ll be able to take care of their child when they can’t seem to control themselves. In result the child will develop fear and anxiety as he will always be in doubt that there is no one to stand up for him.

In addition to this, fights and arguments between parents lead to guilt, shame and self-hatred as the child is unsure of the reason of arguments and may end up cursing himself for the fights. The child lets his imagination fill up the empty spaces.  In addition to that children also learn to respond the same way like his parents, in times of troubles the child may start throwing things or starts shouting because that’s how his parents deal with problems. Or the child may become extremely repressive with his feelings and end up getting hurt by loved ones.

No relations exist without conflicts but how to put an end to the conflict is what really matters. Parents should also learn how to deal with conflicts effectively. Parents who can control their heated behaviors and resolve the problem set healthy example for their children. Fighting the right way is what most of the parents need to learn.

Parents must understand that if they disagree on something than they should work it out instead of silent treatments as this creates more tension. If silence is followed the child himself fills the empty spaces, which can be more dangerous for his brain development. So parents should always let out their anger but in a civilized way.

Also learn to fight fair; parents must analyze what lead to the conflict, whose fault it was instead of blaming one another. Also they should avoid using foul words, display appropriate behavior and avoid using hands while arguing.

Having no conflicts and disagreements is not an option in life but parents need to teach their child through everything. If parents end their conflicts reasonably it can teach their children some worthy lessons too, most important being that even with disagreements and conflicts one can live together. Disagreements don’t mean ending the relations and the child grows up to that instead of taking wrong meanings out of conflicts.

In the era when freedom of choice and freedom of speech prevails, disagreements have become an integral part but working things out effectively is what everyone must learn, specially parents as they have responsibility towards their children too and to assure healthy development of the children, fighting the right way should be the main goal.

Dove, What #BeautyIs

Beauty comes with a variety of definitions, depending from person to person. Some may feel beautiful in a designer dress; other may feel beauty comes with flawless skin. There is no unit, no instrument to measure beauty and how an individual feels about it.

But what about feeling beautiful from within? Research shows that generally women are shaky about their beauty which causes them harm. Women who judge their beauty usually end up troubling their lives.

This is where Dove Beauty Patch comes into action. At Dove it’s all about celebrating the eternal beauty and be proud about it. The Dove beauty Patch Video shows the research and experiment conducted on women who experienced the journey of beauty.

Dove: Patches from Dove Pakistan on Vimeo.

Maybe a trick or tip but this truly indicates that beauty has nothing to do with what size you are, what you wear or how you talk, beauty is all about how you think of yourself as a person, if you do that you’re beautiful beyond measures.

Dove Beauty Patch was globally launched on 9^th April’14 in 66 countries globally. Bloggers, social media activists were invited to celebrate and spread beauty.

You’re beautiful without the thick layers of makeup and you’re beautiful even without any designer dress because beauty is just a state of mind. :)

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ہر روز کی طرح یہ بھی ایک معمولی دن ہی ہے، وہی سورج، وہی چاند ستارے اور وہی معمول کی زندگی- مجھے آج تک یہ بات سمجھ نہیں آئی کہ لوگ زندگی میں کچھ کرنے کے لئے منتخب تاریخوں کے منتظر کیوں رہتے ہیں؟ سوشل میڈیا سے لے کر ٹی وی، اخبار اور میگزینوں میں بس ویلنٹاینزڈے کا ذکر تھا، اور پھر ہم تو پاکستانی ہیں، موقع اپنا ہو یا پرایوں کا ہم تو بس ہر موقع کو بانہیں کھول کر استقبال کرتے ہیں- اپنے غم اور پریشانیاں ایسے بھولتے ہیں جیسے کہ وہ کبھی تھیں ہی نہیں- آج کا دن بھی انہی دنوں میں سے ایک ہے- صبح کی خبروں میں پورے پاکستان کی بھرپور خوشیوں اور تقریبات کو دیکھ کر ابو کے معصومانہ انداز پر بھی میں ہنسی تھی؛ انہوں نے بڑی حیرانی سے پوچھا تھا؛ "آج ویلنٹائن ڈے ہے؟" باقی تو ہر ایک کو اپنی پڑی ہوئی تھی، لیکن کچھ لوگوں کے مطابق تو "ہمارے ملک کے حالات اتنے برے ہیں، اس میں پیار بڑھانے والے دن ضرور ہونے چاہیے" اب کوئی ان لوگوں سے پوچھے کہ محبت کیا صرف اپنی گرل فرینڈ تک محدود ہے یا اپنی فیملی تک؟ پاکستان کے لئے جو محبت ضروری ہے وہ ١٤ فروری کو کسی کو لال گلاب دے کر تو ظاہر نہیں ہوگی- آج خلاف معمول ہسپتال جانا پڑا- راستے میں پھل لینے کے لئے رکے تو میں گاڑی میں ہی بیٹھی رہی اور امی کو سامنے پھل والے سے پھل لیتا دیکھ رہی تھی کہ ان کے پاس بمشکل چار سالہ بچہ آیا اور بھیک مانگنے لگا- دور سے بھی میں اس بات کا اندازہ لگا سکتی تھی کہ امی اس سے اس کے ماں باپ کے بارے میں پوچھ رہی تھیں- بچہ بہت پیارہ تھا مگر اسکے پاؤں میں مسئلہ تھا، اندر کو مڑےہوۓ تھے اور چلنے میں دقت تھی- میں سارے منظر کو ٹکٹکی باندھے دیکھتی رہی، پہلے تو امی نے اسے پیسے دیے مگر پھر وہ چھوڑ کر اسے پھل دلا دیا اور وہ بچہ خوشی خوشی چلا گیا- عجیب دل ڈوبنے والا منظر تھا۔ کچھ لمحات بڑے عجیب ہوتے ہیں، کچھ لوگ بھی! آپ کو یہ سمجھ میں نہیں آتا کہ آپکا اور انکا تعلق کیا ہے مگر آپ انکا درد محسوس کر سکتے ہیں، ان کی تکلیف سمجھ سکتے ہیں- شاید یہ رشتہ انسانیت کا ہوتا ہے- پاکستان میں بے تحاشا غربت ہے، بے تحاشا مسائل ہیں، مگر ہم تو عید محبت منا رہے ہیں- محبت بانٹنے سے تو مسائل کم ہو جاتے ہیں، مگر پھر ایسا کیوں نہیں ہو رہا؟ اگر محبت یہ ہے کہ آپ صرف اپنے ساتھ رہنے والوں سے محبت کا اظہار کریں تو پھر تو یہ کوئی عید نہ ہوئی- سال کے باقی دنوں کی طرح آج بھی تمام تر غریب عوام کو ہم دھتکار دیتے ہیں- یہ کونسی محبت ہے؟ یہ تو خود غرضی ہے! لیکن نہیں، ایسے دن تو منانے چاہییں، کیوں کہ ہمارے اردگرد تو بہت مسائل ہیں اور انکا حل محبت بانٹنے سے ہی تو ملے گا-

Blurred Story

I am no poet but at times I do give poetry a try. Here is the latest one.

In the midst of twilight

Bewildered in my thoughts, I catch your sight.

Your face so beautiful,

It made my inner flames grew wild.

You caught my eyes,

Now I don't know where to hide.

Your eyes shine so bright,

That magic, it got me mesmerized.

I was in a state of plight,

For you didn't care, neither mind.

I got too blind to see,

And fell for you fallacy.

Knowing all your truths, I still believe

For you my heart always skip the beats.

You and me, we follow the same story,

Just the different sides, in our restricted boundaries. 

اک حسین دل

اندرونی خوبصورتی لازوال ہے۔ - رومی

 ہرنئے سال کے آغاز پر ہم سب ایسی قرارداد بناتے ہیں جیسے آنے والے سال میں ہم دنیا فتح کرلیں گے۔ تاریخ کے ذرا سے ردوبدل سےہم نجانے یہ کیوں سمجھ بیٹھتے ہیں کہ سب کچھ بدل جائے گا، حالانکہ کہ دن اور رات وہی، دھوپ اور چھاؤں ویسی اور زندگی کے نشیب ا فراز بھی ویسے رہتے ہیں۔ بس ہمارا حال ایسا ہے کہ

“دل کے بہلانے کو غالب یہ خیال اچھا ہے۔۔“

یہ محض خود کو دھوکا دینا ہوا، سال کے آغاز میں چند وعدے کرلو اور اگلے سال نئے وعدے اور ان سب کا مقصد خود کو بہتر انسان بنانا۔ خود کو بہتر بنانے کے لئے اتنے سارے وعدوں کی کیا ضرورت جب کہ صرف دل کو خوبصورت بنانے سے مقصد پورا ہو سکتا ہے۔

مگر دل کو خوبصورت بنانا محض سال میں ایک دفعہ دنیا والوں کو سنا دینے سے نہیں ہوتا۔ یہ تو ہر گھڑی، ہر دن اپنے آپ سے عہد کرنا اور اس پر مستقل عمل کرنے سے ہوتا ہے، بولنے میں آسان مگر عملی طور اتنا ہی مشکل۔

وہ لوگ واقعی بےحد حسین ہوتے ہیں جن کے دل صاف ہوں، ناچاھتے ہوئے بھی ان سے تعلق بنانے کو دل کرتا ہے۔ اگر ہم بھی اپنے آپ کو کینہ اور بغص سے پاک کرلیں تو دل اور زندگی دونوں حسین ہوسکتی ہیں.

The Art of Make Up

“The makeup is simply an extension of the personality and colors, clothing, makeup all express something.”
                                                                                                                                                                   -Gene Simmons

Believe it or not women all around the world LOVE makeup ok maybe not all of them but yes most of them! A good make over definitely helps to look confident and most importantly beautiful. But the important thing is that make up should be according to the occasion/event. Here are few tips I find the best and they work well for me J

Foundation/Base:

Always, ALWAYS make sure your base is just one tone fairer than your natural skin tone. If you opt for whiter bases it will just give you a plastic look. You can actually look really bad.

If you have oily skin so always go for matte bases, for me Maybelline Dream Matte Mousse works the best, it blends well with the skin. Else stick foundation does the job well.

Before applying the foundation make sure you wash your face properly and moisturize it with oil free moisturizer.

Eyes and Lips:

The synchronization of eyes and lips go hand in hand. You enhance both but focus on one of them. You wouldn’t really enjoy a heavy smoky look on the eyes with bright orange lips.

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Eyes

Don’t you just simply love dramatic eyes? Eyes should be an important focus of your make up. Smokey eyes add the most drama to eyes but you just can’t go all smoky everywhere.

Simply wearing heavy mascara looks really nice, it makes your eyes look wider and more attractive.  You MUST have volumizer mascaras in order to attain such look. Also you can put on some white/ silver-ish eye pencils on your inner eye lids to make your eyes appear relatively brighter and wider.

A very important thing that must be kept on mind, your eye cut and what style of eye liner suits you well. Try different techniques of eye liners beforehand so you get to know which one suits you the best. I always go for thin eye liner and soft winged look, it works well with my droopy eyes. If you have naturally wide eyes, even thick and elongated winged liner serves very well.

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Lips

Your lip color speaks about your personality. Make sure you choose the most appropriate lip color.

With simple heavy mascara eyes you can go for different shades of red or oranges even hot pink.

With heavy eye makeup make sure you choose natural lip colors. But don’t ever leave the lips on lip glosses or lip balms. Your entire look can look incomplete except for the fact if you have really healthy pink lips.

Blush and Contouring:

Rule 1 should be rule, you contour before putting on the blush on. Use shades of brown to contour your cheeks and nose. Don’t ever use the blush brush for this, if you are doing this, then you are just fooling yourself. If you don’t own proper contouring bushes use your fingers, blend well and viola! You still can get a perfect contoured look.

For blush use shades of pinks and peaches, these colors give a refreshing look but don’t use excess of it. 

When putting on the blush smile so you can apply on the proper areas that need the highlight.

Don’t forget to swipe bit of the blush-on on your nose and hair line, cheek bones and neck to balance the entire look. Try using light shades of brown to blush these areas as it adds shape to your face.

In the end don’t forget to apply compact powder by a thick brush so it blends the entire look and make it look complete.

Enjoy!